Real Love Character Test

THOMAS LICKONA

This activity will help you look more objectively at the character of someone you feel romantically attracted to.

Give a score of 1 to 5 for each question, where 1 means "no, never", 2 means "seldom", 3 means "sometimes", 4 means "usually" and 5 means "yes, a lot, always.

1. Does this person treat me with kindness and courtesy?
   
           1        2        3        4        5 
   
2. Does this person ever shove, shake, hit or in other ways bully me?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
3. Is this person self-centered, always expecting to get their own way?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
4. Does this person bring out the best in me? Do I feel happy after spending
   
   time together?
           1        2        3        4        5
   
5. Does this person respect my values, and never pressure me to do something
   I think is wrong? Share my values and respect my limits concerning sex?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
6. Is this person overly jealous and possessive? Keep me from spending time
   with my family and friends?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
7. Does this person tell the truth to me and others?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
8. Does this person have good judgment? How much do I trust him/her?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
9. Use drugs or alcohol?
   
           1        2        3        4        5
   
10. Look at pornography?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
11. Does this person treat and talk about his/her parents with respect?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
12. Does this person treat, talk about my parents/family with respect?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
13. Does this person treat his/her friends in a positive way?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
14. Does this person treat my friends in a positive way?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
15. Spread stories and rumors about other people?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
16. Is this person a hard worker?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
17. Patient & forgiving — able to make up quickly after an argument?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
18. If faith is important in my life, is it important in theirs?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
19. Would I be proud to call this person my husband or wife?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
20. Would this person be a good role model for my children — an example of
    good character? Would I want my kids to grow up to be like him/her?
    
            1        2        3        4        5
    
    
    Now, add up the scores of questions 1, 4, 5, 7, 8, 11, 12, 13, 14, 16, 17, 18, 19 & 20!
    Subtract the scores of questions 2, 3, 6, 9, 10 and 15.
    
    
    Scores 55 - 64:  This person exhibits many good qualities!
    Scores 40 - 54:  This person has potential, but needs to improve in several areas,
         or you need to learn more about him/her.
    Scores 25 - 39:  Be careful, this person's character is very questionable.
    Scores less than 25:  Warning: You are at high risk to be hurt in this relationship!